Saturday, 20 January 2018

CONTROL YOUR ANGER: 31

MISUSE OF بغض فی الّٰلہ (ANGER FOR ALLAH)

While it is correct that our anger should only be for Allah Ta’alah, some people misunderstand the meaning of this completely. For example, when some people start following religion, they start believing that they are superior and virtuous, while everyone else is inferior and is a sinner. They start thinking that their parents, their siblings, their friends are all sinners, and will go to Hell (Jahannum), while they are the only ones who will go to paradise (Jannah). They start believing that Allah Ta’alah has created them to bring everyone else to the right path. They start being angry with their family and friends, start insulting and ridiculing them, start using harsh words with them, ad start violating their rights. The Satan makes them believe that whatever they are doing is for the sake of Allah, while in reality it is their Takabbur (arrogance, believing that we are superior to others and others are inferior to us) and egotism leading them to such behaviour.


That is why people who have just started following the path of Allah sometimes cause more harm than good, by being angry with other people excessively, criticizing other harshly, and getting into fights over religion. Such behaviour often puts other people off religion, rather than attract them towards it.

SURAH AL-ARAF (THE HEIGHTS): 44-47


[7:44]
The inmates of Paradise will call out to the inmates of the Fire: "We have found true what our Lord had promised to us. Have you, too, found true what your Lord had promised?" They will say, "Yes". Then, an announcer between them will call out, "The curse of Allah is on the wrongdoers
[7:45]
who used to turn themselves away from the way of Allah, seeking to make it crooked, while they were the deniers of the Hereafter".
[7:46]
Between the two groups there will be a barrier. And on A=raf (the Heights) there shall be people who will recognize each group through their signs, and they will call out to the people of Paradise, "Peace on you". They will not have entered it, yet they will hope to.
[7:47]
When their eyes will be turned to the people of the Fire, they will say, "Our Lord, do not join us with the unjust people". 

Friday, 19 January 2018

CONTROL YOUR ANGER: 30

THE RISK OF EXPRESSING EXCESSIVE ANGER AT MINORS

If a person we are expressing anger at are the same age as us or older than us, then they can tell us if they don’t like what we say, or can express anger at us in return. However, if he person we are getting angry at us is younger than us, or is our subordinate, then they are not in a position to express their displeasure or take revenge. Therefore, we may not even realize how badly we have hurt their feelings or insulted them, and because we won’t know we won’t even be able to ask for forgiveness for that excessive anger.


Violating rights of minors is a very delicate matter, so much so that Hazrat Thanvi RE that teachers who teach young children should be extra careful because they are minors and in Shariah forgiveness by minors is not valid. It means that if they die before becoming adults and forgiving the teachers for any excesses they may have committed, then there won’t be any way for the teacher to ask for forgiveness for any excessive anger they expressed, and they will have to atone for the violated rights of the minors on the Day of Judgment.

SURAH AL-ARAF (THE HEIGHTS): 43-44


[7:43]
We will remove whatever amount of malice they had in their hearts. Rivers will flow beneath them, and they will say, "All praise is to Allah who has guided us to this. We would not have been able to find the way, had Allah not guided us. Surely, the messengers of our Lord came with the truth". Then they will receive a call, "Here is the Paradise which you have been made to inherit because of the deeds you have been doing".
[7:44]
The inmates of Paradise will call out to the inmates of the Fire: "We have found true what our Lord had promised to us. Have you, too, found true what your Lord had promised?" They will say, "Yes". Then, an announcer between them will call out, "The curse of Allah is on the wrongdoers". 

Sunday, 14 January 2018

CONTROL YOUR ANGER: 29

USE PRETEND ANGER WHEN SCOLDING MINORS


Because of this بغض فی الّٰلہ (anger for Allah) sometimes a person has to express anger, particularly at those people who are under their charge in some way, for example, a teacher at his students, parents at their children, a Sheikh at his disciples. But this anger must be kept within limits and should not exceed the limits set by Shariah. As mentioned above in the advice given by Hazrat Thanvi RE, it is important not to express anger in such situations when overcome by strong emotions, as the risk of transgressing limits would be much higher then. Rather the teacher should wait till their anger subsides, and then scold them with pretend anger. This is obviously difficult because most people get carried away in anger. Therefore, unless a person practices it again and again, particularly while going through Tazkiah (internal purification), it is a very difficult skill to develop.