Sunday 9 April 2017

STOP EXPECTING FROM OTHER PEOPLE - Part 2

That is why Hazrat Thanvi Rehmat Ullah Elaih says that the best way to prevent interpersonal conflicts is to stop having expectations from other people. Why should a person have expectations from a mortal being that he will do me this favour, he will fulfil that need of mine? The only One deserving of all expectations is the One who has created and owns everyone and everything, and who has the authority to do everything, grant every favour.

The most realistic expectation to have from other people is that people are human, they invariably put their own interests first, we are only going to get hurt by them. Then after having the expectation of being hurt by other people, if some good comes from them, then we would be pleasantly surprised, and should thank Allah Ta'alah and say Shukr. However, if we get hurt by someone then we should think that I was already expecting to be hurt by people, so what is new or unexpected in it. This way we do not develop anger and resentment towards them, and we won't develop interpersonal conflicts.

From the talk "Be Like Brothers", by Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani Damat Barakatahum

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