Sunday 14 January 2018

CONTROL YOUR ANGER: 29

USE PRETEND ANGER WHEN SCOLDING MINORS


Because of this بغض فی الّٰلہ (anger for Allah) sometimes a person has to express anger, particularly at those people who are under their charge in some way, for example, a teacher at his students, parents at their children, a Sheikh at his disciples. But this anger must be kept within limits and should not exceed the limits set by Shariah. As mentioned above in the advice given by Hazrat Thanvi RE, it is important not to express anger in such situations when overcome by strong emotions, as the risk of transgressing limits would be much higher then. Rather the teacher should wait till their anger subsides, and then scold them with pretend anger. This is obviously difficult because most people get carried away in anger. Therefore, unless a person practices it again and again, particularly while going through Tazkiah (internal purification), it is a very difficult skill to develop.

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